The following information is based on interview questions and answers for an article that was published by Fairlady in March 2020 (click here to view the published article).
Have you ever heard of imposter syndrome?
Also referred to as the “phoniness feeling” – imposter syndrome is a pattern of belief where people feel they don’t deserve their success and they might be found out to be a fraud. Psychologists Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes coined the “impostor syndrome” in 1978 when they studied successful women:
A feeling of ”phoniness in people who believe that they are not intelligent, capabable or creative despite evidence of high achievement.
These people also live in fear of being ‘found out’ or exposed as frauds.
Characteristics associated with imposter syndrome
The core belief is that we don’t feel good enough and this plays out in all areas of our life. This could include:
- lack of self-trust (always looking outside yourself for answers), e.g.: feelings that you got lucky to get the job/position/opportunity.
- a feeling that you don’t deserve it and it can play out with a cycle of learning without earning (‘’just another course and I will be good enough’’).
Why women are more likely to suffer from imposter syndrome
Women tend to self-doubt themselves more. This can come from childhood beliefs, but also from the belief that we should act like men in the world of business.
We doubt ourselves being authentic in our female energy, as this does not fit the stereotypical corporate/success norm.
My own experience with imposter syndrome
I first experienced this phony feeling during my career in the wine industry. I felt like I got lucky to land my job and didn’t deserve it. I had to prove to myself that I could do it. This became an ongoing cycle for more than 5 years. I worked extra hard to convince myself and prove to others that I deserved this position. It was very exhausting.
When I graduated and started practicing RTTTM (Rapid Transformational Therapy) I had another moment of “am I a fraud?”, until I started focussing on the transformations of my clients. The investment of my time and money to acquire this skill was showing great returns in changing lives, but I needed to believe it first!
How do you counteract it?
According to Dr Joe Dispenza:
Humans operate on about 95% subconscious beliefs and only 5% conscious beliefs.
We all have beliefs that are holding us back and the best way to overcome this is to make sure we align the subconscious and conscious beliefs – the most important is the belief “I AM ENOUGH”. This is the biggest emotional block in the world.
Once we truly believe this, everything changes, and we start to know our value and worth.
Carien Hugo-Waring: Transformation Guide
As an accredited Rapid Transformational Therapy PractitionerTM, I would love to journey with you to break free from blockages in your life that cause you to stay stuck in cycles of low mood, low confidence, weight struggles, addictions or even stress caused by traumatic events.